How to Remove a Post from Are We Dating the Same Guy

You searched your own name and found it. Someone posted your photo in an “Are We Dating the Same Guy” group with thousands of members, and accusations you’ve never seen before are attached to your face. Your stomach drops. You want it gone immediately. But how?

This guide walks you through every removal method available in 2026, from DIY approaches to professional services, so you understand exactly what works, what doesn’t, and why speed matters more than anything else right now.

Understanding What You’re Dealing With

“Are We Dating the Same Guy” (AWDTSG) groups operate across nearly every major city in the United States. These Facebook groups, restricted to women only, allow members to post photos and claims about men they’ve dated or encountered. All AWDTSG posts fall under Facebook’s Community Standards, including their Bullying and Harassment Policy. The groups collectively have over 3.5 million members nationwide.

The core problem is simple: anyone can post anything about anyone. There’s no verification process, no fact-checking requirement, and no opportunity for the person being discussed to respond. A single post can generate hundreds of comments within hours, and screenshots begin circulating to other platforms almost immediately.

You cannot view these posts yourself because male-presenting individuals are blocked from joining. Most men discover they’ve been posted about through friends, dates who suddenly ghost them, or by stumbling across screenshots that have migrated to public platforms.

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Method 1: Facebook’s Standard Reporting System

The most obvious first step is reporting the post through Facebook’s built-in system. Here’s the reality of how this works in practice.

Facebook allows third-party reports for certain content types, including harassment and false information. You can report content even if you’re not a member of the group where it appears. To file a report, you’ll need someone to provide a direct link to the post or a screenshot showing enough identifying information for Facebook’s review team.

Why it usually fails: Facebook’s automated moderation systems are designed to catch obvious policy violations like nudity, hate speech, and direct threats. A post saying “Watch out for this guy, he’s a cheater” doesn’t trigger any automated flags. When a human reviewer looks at the report, they typically see a group of women sharing dating experiences and find no clear policy violation.

Success rate through standard reporting: approximately five to ten percent.

Method 2: Contacting the Group Admin Directly

Some men try reaching out to AWDTSG group administrators to request post removal. This approach has significant risks that you need to understand before attempting it.

Group admins in AWDTSG communities view their role as protecting women. They see removal requests from men as confirmation that the post contains truth the person wants hidden. Even when you present evidence that claims are false, admins frequently decline removal because removing posts undermines the group’s stated purpose of keeping women safe.

The backfire risk: Contacting an admin often results in the admin posting about your removal request within the group. This creates a second wave of attention and engagement. Members rally around the original post, share it more widely, and sometimes create new posts about the removal attempt itself. What started as one post becomes a multi-post situation with even greater visibility.

Method 3: Legal Demand Letters

Sending a cease and desist letter or formal legal demand to the original poster can work in specific circumstances, but it requires knowing who posted the content. In many cases, the poster uses a Facebook profile that doesn’t reveal their real identity, or posts are made by women you’ve never met who are repeating secondhand information.

If you can identify the poster and they posted demonstrably false statements of fact, a legal demand letter from an attorney carries weight. Some posters remove content when confronted with the reality of defamation liability. However, this method takes time, costs money, and still depends on the poster’s voluntary compliance.

Important limitation: Legal demand letters have no effect on screenshots that have already spread to other platforms. Even if the original poster removes their content, copies may exist on Instagram, Reddit, Twitter, and in private messages.

Method 4: DMCA Takedown Requests

If the AWDTSG post includes a photo you took of yourself (a selfie, for example), you may own the copyright to that image. Filing a DMCA takedown notice with Facebook can force removal of posts containing your copyrighted images regardless of the text content.

This approach targets the image specifically rather than the defamatory text. Facebook is legally required to respond to valid DMCA notices under the Digital Millennium Copyright Act. The process involves filing a formal notice that includes your identification, a description of the copyrighted work, and a statement under penalty of perjury.

Limitations: DMCA only works for images you created. If someone else took the photo, you don’t hold the copyright. Additionally, the poster can file a counter-notification, which reactivates the post unless you file a federal lawsuit within fourteen days. For a detailed walkthrough, see our AWDTSG DMCA takedown guide.

Method 5: Professional Removal Services

Professional AWDTSG removal services have developed specialized expertise and proprietary methods specifically designed for these groups. Unlike DIY approaches, professional services understand the internal dynamics of AWDTSG communities and have established processes that produce consistent results.

Professional services like Tea App Green Flags achieve ninety-two to ninety-five percent success rates for AWDTSG post removal. The typical timeline is 30 to 90 days from engagement to confirmed removal. This approach addresses not just the original Facebook post but also cross-platform spread to Instagram, Reddit, Twitter, and other platforms.

What makes professional removal different:

• Proprietary methods that create genuine leverage for removal, not just standard reporting
• Cross-platform coverage addressing screenshots and reposts across all platforms
• Search engine deindexing to remove content from Google search results
• Ongoing monitoring to catch and address any reposting attempts
• Documentation support for potential legal action if needed

Why Speed Is the Most Critical Factor

Every hour an AWDTSG post remains live, the damage compounds. Here’s the typical timeline of post spread:

First 2 hours: The post receives initial comments and reactions from group members. Early screenshots are captured by active members.

Hours 2-12: Comment threads grow to dozens or hundreds of responses. Members begin sharing screenshots to personal messages and other social media platforms.

Days 1-3: Screenshots appear on Instagram Stories, Reddit threads, and Twitter. Group members from other cities cross-post the content. Google begins indexing any publicly accessible versions.

Week 1+: The content becomes embedded across multiple platforms. Search engines surface it in results for your name. Dating matches begin referencing or reacting to the content.

The difference between acting on day one versus day seven can mean the difference between removing one post from one platform and chasing dozens of copies across the entire internet. Contact a professional service immediately to minimize the scope of removal needed.

What to Do Right Now

If you’ve just discovered an AWDTSG post about you, take these steps immediately:

1. Document everything. Have someone screenshot the original post, all comments, the poster’s profile, and any shares or cross-posts. This evidence is critical for both removal efforts and potential legal action.

2. Do not engage with the post. Do not comment, do not have friends comment, do not contact the poster through Facebook. Any engagement increases visibility and typically escalates the situation. Read our guide on what to do when you’re posted in AWDTSG for detailed first steps.

3. Check for cross-platform spread. Search your name on Google, Reddit, Instagram, and Twitter. Identify every location where the content has appeared. This information helps determine the scope of removal needed.

4. Contact professional removal services. Tea App Green Flags offers free consultations to assess your situation and explain your options. The initial assessment helps you understand the full scope of damage and the most effective path to comprehensive removal.

5. Consider legal consultation. If the post contains demonstrably false statements of fact, you may have grounds for a defamation claim. An attorney can advise on whether legal action makes sense for your specific situation. Learn more in our AWDTSG lawsuit guide.

Comparing Your Options at a Glance

Method	Success Rate	Timeline	Cost	Cross-Platform
Facebook Reporting	5-10%	Weeks-months	Free	No
Admin Contact	10-15%	Days-weeks	Free	No
Legal Demand	30-50%	Weeks	$500-2,000	Limited
DMCA Takedown	40-60%	10-14 days	Free-$500	No
Professional Service	92-95%	30 to 90 days	Custom quote	Yes

The Bottom Line

Removing an AWDTSG post is possible, but the method you choose determines whether you succeed or make things worse. DIY approaches through Facebook’s reporting system fail the vast majority of the time. Direct contact with admins frequently backfires. Legal methods work in narrow circumstances but take time and money.

Professional removal services exist specifically because these groups are designed to resist removal attempts from the people being discussed. The expertise, established processes, and proprietary methods that professional services bring produce results that individual efforts simply cannot match.

Your reputation is worth protecting. False accusations in AWDTSG groups don’t have to define your digital presence. Get a free consultation today and take the first step toward removing damaging content and reclaiming your name.

City and State AWDTSG Removal Guides

Looking for location-specific removal help? See our guides for New York City, Los Angeles, Chicago, and more. For state-level legal information, check our California and New York guides.

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Disclaimer: Tea App Green Flags is not a law firm and does not provide legal advice. The information on this page is for general informational purposes only and should not be construed as legal counsel. Tea App Green Flags provides professional defamation removal and reputation management consultation services. For legal advice regarding your specific situation, please consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction. Results vary by case; removal timelines are estimates and not guarantees.